Dear Woman of God,
“Embrace the season that you are in, embrace the place, the status, the moment that God has placed you in right now. Embrace it.”
‘Waiting. It is one of the most frustrating things you can do. Waiting for a new job, waiting for the man that God has for you, waiting for that man to propose, waiting to be old enough to move out, waiting for a promotion, waiting to have children, waiting for those children to move out, and the list goes on. Waiting for God to say ‘yes’ to something you have been wanting and praying for, for a while isn’t easy and boy have I experienced the frustrations of waiting for what sometimes feels like months, even years.
My friend, something that God has been teaching me lately has drastically changed the way I view and live in these moments, and I want to share it with you. A few months ago (I would say around January) with what usually comes with the start of a new year, I was reflecting on where I was in life – my career, my health, my spiritual growth and my relationship status. After thinking on these things and evaluating where I was at, I tell you; I was FRUSTRATED. I was so unsatisfied with where I was in life and was not happy with a single aspect. I was in the same job that I have been in for the last two and a half years, I was at my heaviest weight, I felt like I wasn’t doing enough for God and to top it off, I was STILL single (lol, after almost three years).
‘God, I hate where I am! I am tired of waiting! Pleeeaaase give me a new job, pleeaaase bring the man you have for me, pleaaase HELP me be healthier and pleeaaase help me do MORE for You.’
My prayers were desperate cries and pleas for help, desperate requests to GET OUT of the season I was in and to move on to the ‘BIGGER’ plans that God said He had for me.
Unsatisfied. I wasn’t happy at all; I was utterly frustrated.
I’m sure a lot of you women can relate to how I felt. To make it worse, instead of submitting these frustrations to God, I allowed them to take over. Being the Queen of emotions that I am (but don’t pride myself to be lol) I had no trouble allowing these feelings to take full control. My feelings of frustration led me to eating more, waking up with great dread every morning at the thought of going to work, had me serving my clients with a grumpy heart during the day and returning home to my sisters with a mouth loaded and ready to FIRE all of my complaints, almost every night (…and boy did they hate it!).
I hated it too. I hated the fact that I was so negative. I hated the fact that I wasn’t satisfied, and I hated the fact that I was STILL waiting on God to come through with a new job, a new man and a new “me”, basically.
It’s funny, fast forward to almost three months later and can I tell you, nothing much has changed. I am STILL working in the same job I am STILL single as a single ‘Belle’ can be lol. But you know what the difference is? I AM SO HAPPY, I am SO CONTENT and I can’t help but overflow with gratefulness! Why? ‘cause God set me free from a lie that I was believing the WHOLE time and replaced it with the truth. You see, I believed that in life there was this thing called a “waiting” period, a “waiting” stage or a “waiting” season if you’d like. That between each big milestone in life (i.e., graduating high school, graduating university, getting a job, finding a spouse, having kids etc. and so on and so forth) there were seasons where you had to “wait” for the next big thing. Something like the graph below:
Every time I reached a milestone, like when I got my first job or when I when I made it into Uni, I would be so high and excited about life and what my achievements had to offer. But after a few years of being in uni or in my job, that excitement and ‘high’ would slowly fade into a period of waiting in frustration for the next big thing. I would be like, ‘God, HOW LONG till I graduate? How long till I get a promotion? How long till I meet the one? How LONG till I have the wedding of my dreams? When we don’t embrace the truth that we are EXACTLTY where God wants us to be, right now – we will be frustrated. My mom put it right, with these very words:
“The waiting mindset makes you DREAD what God is doing today”
Whenever we have the mindset that we are in the ‘waiting’ season, we will come to a point of being frustrated especially when what we are hoping for isn’t coming when we hoped it would. This frustration would lead us to DREADING this very day that God has already blessed us with- now. The waiting season, my dear sister is a lie, it doesn’t exist. If you are a woman of God who has truly allowed God to take the wheel and has walked in obedience, you are not waiting – you are EXACTLY where God wants you to be right now and girl! it is perfect! Ask God to help you Embrace it and make the most of it. You are TRULY in the place, you are truly in the job, you are truly in the relationship status – you are truly in the EXACT place that God wants you to be, right now. Embrace it😊.
The waiting season, my dear sister is a lie, it doesn’t exist. If you are a woman of God who has truly allowed God to take the wheel and has walked in obedience, you are not waiting – you are EXACTLY where God wants you to be right now and girl! it is perfect! Ask God to help you Embrace it and make the most of it.
When I finally embraced this truth, I no longer dreaded going to work, I served my clients with so much joy, I came home to my sisters with praise reports, and that pressure I put on myself of the need to be in a relationship at my age, faded. Frustration no longer kept me company. In addition to that, this change of mindset, this truth led me to doing the best I could in the season I was in, which included taking care of my health and investing in the gifts that God has given me 🙂
Don’t get me wrong, I am human remember? And do have my moments where I ‘forget’ this truth and fall into those thoughts and feelings of discontentment, BUT every. Single. time I come to the throne where my heavenly Father sits and waits for me, I remember the truth – that He has me exactly where I need to be. I repent and the contentment, the appreciation – the gratefulness and joy for where I am right now, returns. Every. Single. Time! 😊 God is so good!
Receiving this truth, believing I am where God wants me to be in this very moment and embracing it has helped me understand what Paul meant when he said this in Phillipians 4:12 and 13:
“I know how to live on almost nothing or with everything. I have learned the secret of living in every situation, whether it is with a full stomach or empty, with plenty or little. For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength.”
The secret to contentment, the secret to embracing exactly where God has placed you in this moment, the secret to making the most of your current status, whether it be unemployed or employed, single or married, studying or doing the “home” work, childless or with children…whatever it is, the secret to being fully content and embracing your current season, is finding your strength and contentment in JESUS and in the sure knowledge that He knows exactly what He is doing with the wheel of your life. When we keep Jesus at the center, when we allow Him to be our captain, when we let him take control, we can rest easy and embrace exactly where we are right now.
A final poem I want to leave with you dear sister is from the wisest man who EVER lived, King Solomon himself. Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 says;
For everything there is a season,
a time for every activity under heaven.
2 A time to be born and a time to die.
A time to plant and a time to harvest.
3 A time to kill and a time to heal.
A time to tear down and a time to build up.
4 A time to cry and a time to laugh.
A time to grieve and a time to dance.
5 A time to scatter stones and a time to gather stones.
A time to embrace and a time to turn away.
6 A time to search and a time to quit searching.
A time to keep and a time to throw away.
7 A time to tear and a time to mend.
A time to be quiet and a time to speak.
8 A time to love and a time to hate.
A time for war and a time for peace.
Interesting, King Solomon mentioned a number of seasons and times that we will go through in life, but one he never mentioned was a season of ‘waiting‘. Food for thought 🙂
Embrace where you are as you walk with Christ my dear sister 🙂